Jumping into my Own
Seul Eniko and To Each Its Own
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There was a time in my life when I felt that pleasing oneself was selfish and wrong. I did not realize that the only wrong there, was just that specific train of thought.
I am not talking about making decisions or taking actions that we know will deliberately hurt others without any concerns or regards for their feelings. But I am talking about being aware that taking into consideration our own needs and feelings is just as important and even more so.
I´ve been slowly and painfuly learning to let go of the shoulds and musts that I have imposed upon myself. Not just taking responsibility for my actions but also refusing – without guilt – to take on anybody else’s. Setting limits, boundaries and jumping straight out into myself for once.
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Okay Landa you started it, lol………here goes.
First, I am glad you are starting to free yourself from whatever it was that imposed these restrictions and guilt on how you.have placed Landa in the priority list. Normally a by-product of our upbringing and surrounding childhood influence.
We tend to use language that still carries stigma, pleasing yourself is not a selfish act, rather a necessity to a happy wholesome life. (Most people get this far and thing “wow she is selfish”)
We take care (or should) of our diet and in turn our health prospers. We watch that the risks we take do not end up costing us dearly when they fail (sky diving, not for me). We maintain routines to allow our mind and bodies to flourish, example proper sleep and exercise. So this is not surprising we all do it in one degree or another.
But what about our presence, our persona, our spirit or our essence? Call it what you will but one thing is for sure if we aren’t happy then all those suffer and we are likely to be seen as the “cranky old bat” in the corner. We can’t offer or touch others with happiness unless we are truly happy.
There is a lot more to this but basically make yourself happy just watch to not overindulge, Happiness is contagious allow it in and spread it to those willing to accept.
Remember you come first not because you are selfish but because you owe it to you.
♥Dee♥
Pretty Dee you are so right. The balance is a delicate one for one who, like me, is just taking baby steps as to limits and boundaries are concerned. One never ceases to learn and I am soo glad for that! TYSM for your comment. Keep them coming!!! Right now I feel like having coffee in SL with you and discussing the path of the butterflies! xox
I have 2 points based on your reply Landa and they both popped into my head as I read. One, yes we must sit down to coffee, I would enjoy that. Two would be this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nbuC9hX2XAk ♥x♥
Aweee 🙂